Silence is Not always Gold...

Communication is one of the most important factors towards the success of any relationship in the world, and it walks through the path of talking with eachother,discussions back and forth, opinions need not be the same all the time, yet all these things bring you closer to the person you are dealing with especially if both of you are putting in the same effort to outgrow any distances. The opposites in a person make you want to understand them more, give them more of your time and attention because you see them different from you in various ways, and that gives you the curioristy, interest to go beyond, and know more what exactly is hidden underneath their surface..

In the meantime, similarities are also a good thing, and definetly a safe road to continue walking through because you feel that you are both meeting half way, and you have a conversation flowing naturally..I always loved the quote "Silence is Gold", and truly believed in it, and still do, but there comes a time when you should talk and express your feelings, worries, sadness, happiness, fears, concerns, and emotional changes to protect yourself from any misunderstanding that can occur irrelevantly, and that can lead your relationship to drift away from within both of you..

At this point my readers might assume and feel im talking only about relationships that include committment, love, and marriage, but I further address all types of relationships excluding colleagues at work, and professional contacts because there are totally different factors and categories involved, have higher boundaries, and red lines that should always be followed in order to always keep the relationship in its proper frame..

Silence is the best possible option when you have tried talking and expressing yourself and didnt find what you had expected or hoped for in terms of opinion, thought, and emotion.  Automatically, you will find yourself moving a couple of steps backwards in complete silence to protect yourself from being hurt and disappointed..

Talking and expressing yourself is a positive step towards honesty, and slowly unleashing what is hidden, it breaks high walls, and saves you from any sudden falls. On the other hand, being an open book all the time to your friends, family and loved ones is not always the best option to choose.. Anything that is yet to be unwrapped is a catch to anyone's eye, so always remember to keep something for yourself, safely kept in your secret box until the time is right in every way to let it out to the open whether in terms of the situation you are in, the person you will share it with, and most importantly when 'you' are ready to pour out what is left of you..

At the end, I want to finally pass you pieces of advice from my personal experiences:

1- Acknowledge when it is the best time to talk, discuss, negotiate, argue, express your feelings, and possibly choose silence..
2- Understand the 'actual picture' of any situation before firing all what you have to say because that might completely ruin the picture you once had within your hands..
3- Value the jewel of Respect, Cherish the gift of Honesty, Protect the pillars of Trust, and Shower the waterfalls of Love within your mind, heart and soul..
4- Apply logic, reason, and maturity to important decision making..
5- Listen before you speak..
6- Have good intentions towards the person infront of you; yet always keep your eyes and heart open to surprises to save yourself from any disappointments..
7- Follow this rule towards certain people in your life that only 'you' choose and decide to put them in this category based on evidence, situaitons, and previous experiences - "you are guilty until proven otherwise"