I am Sure you Love your Best Friend...

I always thought the most important factor in any relationship was love...Now I am sure this was simply a childish myth that ran through my mind for many years ahead, where I believed in it, or didnt want to see reality, but in all cases I definetly acted upon it..

How long you've been best friends, shared stories and secrets; and walked through similar experiences together and whether you know each other from childhood, school, college or any other, it  doesn't really count or is even considered as a warranty to both of you; yet of course what you share is appreciated, and kept close to the heart..

In my opinion, what truly counts is the situation that happened between you, how deep and intense it was whether it was good or bad, but it definetly brings you a step closer to knowing the person.  Clearly, it is the situation that creates everything and more; and not the number of years in which you have known the person..

In life, sometimes it takes us more than a decade to truly know the people in our life, and who are we actually dealing and spending most of our time with..Of course I am not generalizing; or intend to be a stereotype, yet I am sharing with you my personal experiences, and how I have changed and reached to my updated views which are now guiding me through my journey in life. Now, I am sure love is important, and should always be on the list for any relationship; yet it is not always a priority that will lead towards success..

I would like to clearly say that it mostly depends on the person infront of you, the actual situation, and their personal views about life that can lead them to act and react towards a certain situation in a specific way that is completely normal and ethical for them, but need not be appropriate for you or even acceptable - afterall people are different, and we are supposed to accept the people in our life for who they are, because we clearly should know that people dont change, and everyone has pros and cons to their personality.

Unfortunately this doesn't stop us from getting affected, hurt and sometimes shocked from people whom we thought were very close to us throughout our life, and that nothing in the world could scratch or break the strong bond we share with that person.  I am not saying that we should lose them or disconnect ourselves from the friendship; yet simply understand how they think and behave in order to prepare ourselves how to react and respond accordingly in the exact similar way to protect ourselves from any negative drawbacks we could fall into.

We have an old Eastern saying that says A-"Do you know the person"? B-"Yes".. A-"Did you live with that person"? B-"No" .. A-"Then you simply dont know him"... ...

My personal view about this saying is that its true most of the time, but sometimes there are exceptions in this world where you truly know the person you are dealing with from within their soul, and you are naturally gifted with transparency in your relationship, and I truly believe this is a gift from God because simply it is slowly but surely moving onto the vanishing path..

I always believed that we should treat people the same way we want to be treated, and I used to follow this theory for many years, yet again I was proved completely wrong to have followed this path, simply because not everyone we deal with will behave, act and react the way we do towards a certain situation...

Now, I am convinced that we should treat people for who they are and what they deserve from us, and that everything should be done, and given in moderation. We have to learn to never over react in our care, love, and support no matter how close and strong the relationship is; yet at the end of the day it will always be categorized under the 'friendship umbrella'...

You always have to know when to give, when to care, when to support, when to speed up, and when to pull up the brakes in your relationships or else if you go with the flow, and have nothing planned in your mind, you will simply be taken for granted and stepped over like a door mat. No matter what happens, keep your head high up, respect yourself, so everyone will respect you back in return..

"Never love too much..Never care too much..Never expect too much, because simply you will get hurt so much"... ...