The "Pretty Un-Fit" Xperience...

One of the many experiences that obliged her to change without the need to 'over think' of what just happened - 'In There' ...  

Despite the many years that went by; yet the flashbacks are visible and particular in her mind as if it were yesterday.  The innocent smiles, the laughing hearts, and the jumping up & down souls were the things they shared as children - But wait a minute - was it all really true and coming from the heart or was it covered with restricted boundaries, and all these beautiful emotions she felt were not sincere...?!?    

She thought of nothing except being honest to no limits, sharing it all without any secrets, and enjoying the special moments she loved.  They used to eat, shop, sleepover, talk, laugh, swim, listen to music, play around the house, share special moments of innocence until one of those days...

One day, they went shopping, and she was sure she was having the time of her life, nothing could ever be more special than this - or so 'She Thought"...They randomly entered a shop, and were equally looking around, and sharing ideas about what they liked and didnt like so much; until a surprising bouncing question came along from the 'Sales Person' - "You all look alike so much - are you sisters...?" Sudden cold seconds of silence rised where she was going to naturally without thinking twice answer her and say "Ofcourse we are sisters" ... But Ooops life is full of suprises, and it sure does not give us all what we wish for... Without hesitation or embarrassment they quickly answered saying - "We are sisters, but she is not"....  

In that particular moment so many things she loved, cherished, and enjoyed all along were smashed into pieces, and scattered all over, not being able to ammend or pick up 'a single broken piece'...

This situation was very intense, sensitive, and traumatic for her to handle, especially that she was caught by surprise; yet on the other hand, they might not even remember or take into account that this situation had actually ever happened, or even if they remember, they would  think exactly like this - "Yes, so what, its no big deal, because simply this is the truth, that she is not our sister, but yes ofcourse we still love her...The boundaries' button was suddenly turned on, but never off again...

The situation was short in terms of the words that were said, yet this was one of the many situations that changed her gradually to the person she grew up to be...She became the 'Opposite of her past'...

From there onwards, she maturally believed that everyone should be careful as to what they say to their friends, family, and or colleagues, because there are words that might easily hurt them, and they might even walk a couple of steps backwards from where they were in that relationship...

There are many people who repeat this phrase "Forget the past, and move on"... I agree with the phrase as a general idea, but when it comes to specifics, and personal issues I highly disagree... Let me share with you my thoughts about this concept - its clearly simple...

If we forget our past, and move on, I personally dont believe we will completely be able to do so the correct way, because I feel 'our past' is the only reference we have as guidance to our present and future; without our past; we wont be able to walk through our present, handle it, and get ready 'somehow' for our future... 

I learnt how to have boundaries, keep them close, and only I can decide when and with whom to turn those buttons 'On & Off...' Always learn to differentiate between your love for a special person, and the way they treat you, because as much as they are different concepts; yet they are sometimes also interlinked...

At this particular moment, she walks backwards in thought to this situation and many others, and 'Simply Smiles' because it is 'Those Situatons' that made her change to become stronger, smarter, and wiser, and she has nothing more to add except two final words - Thank You :-) ...